Special thanks to the creator of Paperthinpersonas.com, who let me use various paper doll outfits of her creation to make this Doctor Who/Paper Doll adventure! This modesty Activity Days idea is a fun lesson on the contextual nature of modesty, that gives girls an understanding of why modesty is personal and situational (and should not be used as a tool to judge others). If you feel that you must give a modest lesson in Activity Days, please consider using this one (and avoid hemline standards meant for older ages in the LDS church).
Categories: Learning and Living the Gospel
Duration: 1 session
- Card stock (regular paper can work in a pinch)
- Coloring Implements
- Print one copy the Marisole and Doctor Who paper dolls on cardstock. (You could also print extras for them to take home and play with/teach an FHE lesson with at home.)
- Print/access the A Doctor Who Modesty Adventure story.
- Print/access the quotes listed in the activity. (Maybe the pictures too.)
1. Share this quote from LDS.org Gospel Topics: “Modesty is an attitude of propriety and decency in dress, grooming, language, and behavior.” Discuss how we often focus on the “dress” part, but that the other aspects of modesty are just as important, if not more important, than the dress part. Spend a few minutes discussing what modesty in grooming, language, and behavior look like.
2. Now, ask the girls what they think “modest dress” looks like. Ask them if modest dress has the same standards everywhere in the world. Share this quote from Elder John H. Groberg’s “Right for the Climate:”
“Imagine you are in a courtroom. All of the attorneys and officials are dressed in their finest clothing. Then the judge enters wearing a T-shirt and shorts!
You certainly are more likely to take the judge seriously when he dresses to fit the occasion. The way the judge is dressed says a lot about the climate of his courtroom and about the type of behavior expected there. Similarly, the way you dress may say a lot about you.”
3. Talk about how modesty is more than just specific measurements. We must be in tune with the “climate” we are surrounded by. For instance, it’s perfectly modest to wear a swimsuit at the beach, but you would not wear a swimsuit to the library! Talk about some examples of different climates they might encounter (church, school, bedtime, sports, hiking, etc.).
4. Similarly, modesty can change according to local culture. Read more of John H. Groberg’s talk:
“Cultural climates can influence proper dress. For example, when I lived in the Pacific Islands in the 1950s, the older a person’s clothes were, the better dressed the person was considered. Clothing, like antiques, gained value over time, and patches were evidence of individual character.”
Ask if they know that in Samoa the male missionaries are allowed to wear skirts. They are called ‘sulus,’ and are acceptable for men to wear. The male missionaries can wear sulus made out of suit fabric. Ask if they think it would be modest for them to wear those same skirts on a mission in Mexico. (No, it would probably detract from the work they are trying to do.) Discuss some other examples of how clothing might be considered modest in one culture but immodest in another (For instance, Middle Eastern women wearing burqas).
5. Modesty has also changed a lot through time. For instance, in Brigham Young’s time it was immodest for women to show their ankles, and yet exposing shoulders was perfectly fine for the Prophet’s daughters in this picture:
5. So, modesty can be a lot more complicated that just following specific measurements. We need to take into account what activity we are doing, what culture we are doing it in, and what the Holy Ghost tells us about what we are wearing! That’s a lot to think about!
6. Now for the activity. Pass out the paper dolls and clothes and have the girls color and cut out each one. If you have time you can also cut out and color Doctor Who, the TARDIS, and the Trabbles.
7. Once all have been colored and cut out, read the A Doctor Who Modesty Adventure story. At the appropriate times, have the girls guess which outfit is appropriately modest for the occasion, and put it on Marisole. (Note that a few extra Trabbles have been included in case one gets misplaced!)
8. If you have time, when the story is finished have them tell you what they’ve learned about modesty.